In our class we learned about how families have systems and subsystem. The system is the family as a whole and a subsystem is something that every member plays a role in. Each member is a subsystem to make that family run as a system. For example the oldest daughter helps her mother as a secondary mother in a family where the father is gone. Or the middle child is the one in the family who cheers up a member of the family when they are sad. Learning this has made me step back to look at the different subsystems or roles in my family. Some good and some maybe not so good just like any family.
The other thing that is part of a family is family rules. Which are rules that are developed without anything said. For instance a rule between the children would be not to tattle tale. Meta rules are rules about the rules. So if you break the rule of not tattle telling then the one child who broke the rule will maybe be shunned by the other brothers and sisters from playing with them. It's very interesting! Try and look at the different subsystems and quietly named rules in your family!
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